Five Minute Friday: In Real Life

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Today's prompt is: In real life...


I like to pretend that the perfectionist in my head is the actual person who writes this blog.  I would like people to think that I keep my house perfectly and my children behave perfectly all the time and that I never lose my cool.  I would like people to think that my remarriage is going swimmingly and that we never have problems.  I would like people to think that I'm still as skinny as I was a few months ago.  I would like to think this, but I know it's not true.  I try to be honest on this blog, so I hope none of you think any of those things.

In real life, I am a perfectionist, but my busy life of working from home, motherhood, marriage and everything else on my plate doesn't allow for perfectionism.  That is as it should be.  Does it still plague me that my baseboards need to be wiped and my oven needs to be cleaned, of course!  But most days I'm happy just to get a shower in. 

My children are crazy little monsters, whom I love dearly and wouldn't trade for anything.  They can be sweet and loving and lovable...but they can also be screaming balls of fire and brimstone and I often lose my cool.  We do a lot of apologizing in our house.

My marriage is going fine.  We have our ups and downs like everyone else, but we have our past issues added to that and they are hard to overcome sometimes.  But we love each other enough to keep working at it everyday, keep going on dates to reconnect, and keep being honest.

I've gained back 2/3 of the weight I lost during my divorce and am almost back to where I was after Paige was born.  I'm working on it, but it bothers me so I don't write on it much.

So, as you can see, in real life, though I am ALWAYS working to balance things, and working to be better, my life is just like yours, a little messy.  And that's OK.  Real life is a little messy.


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  1. I love how you talk about the perfectionist who lives in your head. :) And me too. Something real in my life: Ok--My oldest started first grade this week. And I was a nervous wreck? It wasn't just for her, (Will she do ok? Will she make friends ok?), but also for ME (What if the teacher intimidates ME and we don't have a good working relationship? What if I forget to send her lunch and her backpack? What if we're late? What if the other parents think I'm a flake?).

    Thank you for being real. It encourages me to know that I'm not the only one out here trying to find that balance, and having some days be better than others.

  2. so similar to what I wrote about. Life IS messy. That's just how it goes. I like how you said we do a lot of apologizing in our house. So do we. Thanks for being real. It makes us all feel normal!

  3. Now that does sound like real life..perfect in it's own imperfect way!

  4. I think we all share that perfectionist. Really enjoyed your honesty, real life is like you describe, and we have nothing to apologise for, because real life is our story! Happy Friday, Nics


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